Death is not an easy subject to talk about. For many persons, the process
of dying is filled with more fear than death itself.
When dying comes slowly, its losses are experienced more profoundly.
There is the loss of physical abilities as eyesight and hearing
become weaker, bones become more brittle, and and mobility is affected
by such things as arthritis and Parkinson's disease. There is a loss
of control as bodily functions that were once taken for granted are
now major tasks or need to be attended to by others. There is a loss of
mental abilities as the brain is affected by the aging process or even
such devastating diseases such as Alzheimer's. There is a loss of freedom
as simple abilities of the body and the mind turn into experiences of
intense pain or even outright disabilities.
All of these things can also lead to a loss of community as well, especially
as peers also die. Yet, while each of us will experience dying as a personal
event, loss of community does not have to be a part of dying. In recent
years, the hospice movement has taken dying out of the medical institutions
and put it back into the home or a comfortable home-like setting.